What have Women lost??

I read this article yesterday from Tech Station. It seems to counteract Maureen Dowd's article and provide some insight into how the Women's movement has changed things and also how Men have lost out.
http://techcentralstation.com/112705A.html
The main point being that in the sexual revolutions changes Men lost the ability to have good families and be part of a productive society that raises healthy children that allows them to be healthy sane people.

And women have lost the right to have children in wedlock without first giving up the goodies before marriage so to speak-or never getting married. In the meantime it's true that women have gained better career experiences and more autonomy and respect.

It's certainly true that women have lost a great deal, but the article seems to put Men squarely at the front of the architecture for society. I just don't feel this is true.
It is true that women who are smart are not considered as attractive to men who are insecure and feel threatened by them. I know this from my own experiences in the classroom, dating room, and work world. There are too many men who see only MEN as the ones who can tell them things, give advice, or truly run things. There are also a lot of women who feel this way.

It is certainly true that Women are petty about Men and tend to give up more important things in the rush for a good man, except for Lesbians who seem content to be annoyed by the rest of us. Many women will trade in a good friendship for a date or put down a female simply to get themselves ahead... and by the way-MEN BANK ON THIS BEHAVIOR.

It allows Men to maintain control of society. The Female Heterosexual's obsession with getting a good man has allowed them to loose the right to have sex in marriage, to loose good jobs, to loose power in the government, and to end up on their own more often when raising kids.

Yes, men need to take responsiblity for their children, they also need to take responsibility for their behavior and not sleep around like silly sluts. The option to be a Hugh Hefner type is very desireable-except that it leads to depression, lack of money, and well watch the reality show on E! sometime documenting his life-it doesn't lead to a good life, not really. One that might satisfy for 10 years or so..but by 15 leaves little.

I constantly hear Women talk about how they don't need a man to raise a child and they are right. But, the children need their fathers and any career women who wants to have kids and a great career that is satisfying-NEEDS A HUSBAND. The institution of marriage is good for relieving stress and allowing people to live productive lives.

And if Women are so good at raising kids and be super mommy's why do we let Men and society allow us to be so much less? I think it's because a lot of women are not interested in working hard. REALLY. I think they are lazy, they don't want to work hard at having a good marriage, raising kids, and a career. They don't want the responsibility of war or taxes on their heads. And really, so many women have been taught to be submissive or cut off at the knees too many times to keep trying. How can you blame them?

But as Women strive to survive and be productive, we must keep trying, keep ignoring the buffoons who grab your butt, the codgers who hate getting good solid advice from a female or the lazy vindictive women who seek to undermine them.

And I need to say-there are a good number of Men out there who want and respect smart, hardworking women. They love them for it, maybe their own Mom was that way-maybe she wasn't and they needed her to be more that way. Because you see as the number of single Mom's has grown so has the number of Men raised by them who have come to respect that a women can be strong and do so much more than society credits them for beyond making cookies and changing diapers. I know-I've dated them and some of my best male bosses were those kinds of men.

It's a sad way to gain equality for Women, but it is one upside to the Hugh Hefner effect of the Sexual revolution. So maybe it does come back to men, but I think women need to take responsibilty for themselves-you can't be made into a cupcake-but you can let someone make you into one. You can save yourself for marriage and the right relationship to have kids. That's the benefit of living in the U.S. and I for one intend to use it!